The Crows nest!

Monday, 31 December 2012

New Year Eve

Well its fast approaching and so is a rather shitty weather front, I had just finished Obi first morning walk from Hove beach front to the Marina at the bottom of Whitehawk estate i do get so carried away with the beautiful sea, the waves crashing on to the rocks below, its so loud and natural.
All other sound traffic, voice and Amusements are drowned out completely its only you the sea and the passing seagulls who know the sea's melody, many years ago I would choose these times to stand by the shore the wind howling around me and some times scream, cry and sing my heart out, only you sea and seagulls, well now I have to add Obi he woofs into the wind.

Its only 9:30pm and I am feeling fed up its cold and wet outside and I really want to go out but am I being harsh on Obi? I know the boy would fallow me to hell and back, and I cant think of anyone better than him at this time to celebrate a new begging than my companion Oberon.

Nicola told me that the last bus that I can use my pass on is 11:35pm to the beach well even if its raining I can get of a Kemp town and walk with Obi to the arches along the sea front and have cover, but then if it continues to rain then we are going to get wet a fair bit, the question is it worth it?
Hell yeah I think its time I took charge of my life, all part of the self healing, so far the smoking is now going on 7 days with no tobacco at all and no patches just the none tabac nicotine cigs, and its working I get the feeling and panic but I am in control of it. br />
Some other things are happening which are really nice and I can't wait for the new year, I am so lucky to have good family, friends and things to do in the coming month of January, all there is to say Happy new year and may the eyes of fate smile upon you and me welcome new Horizons xxxx

Saturday, 29 December 2012

Living with Family

Well me and Obi arrived no more than 4 days ago, both of us J and me looked uncomfortable and edgy in each others company, J had got her sister to come with us, which was of good support to J but for me it was less space in the car for my stuff, I had left behind my massage table, computer and some bags, its interesting the stuff I wanted to bring I did not find space for.

I don't think a single day has gone by where I have not been awake to the early hours of the morning as of now its 1:28am and I am listening to Mysterious universe though I should get out of that thinking and get to sleep at a more reasonable time, and I need to eat some proper food, I am not eating much.

Since I have moved back to Brighton I been taking Obi out for long sea walks, from the bottom of Whitehawk and walk along to the Brighton pier and the new addiction of the new Ferris wheel.I have now spent Six full days down here 5 of them a none smoker I am not by my first week and already I am moody, sarcastic, sad, happy and walking into the wind.

I have not felt like I wanted to celebrate Yule or the new year at all, its been a roller-coaster of a journey so far and yes I wanted to get off, many times I don't know what keeps me going the support of family and some very close friends.

Since we have moved down there has been a lot of rain and wind which in a funny way has dried out Obi before we get back home though still a bit damn, I have been using his slicker brush on him daily morning and evening, so far its making his coat look good.


It has been a difficult and a very productive experience for Obi which is a blessing it keeps me going seeing him happy he has met a few doggy friends mostly along the beach front I use my bus pass to transport us both from town and walk back to the Marina which is a long walk over 2-3 miles and has shown us that Brighton is as far as healing is a good place to be, I just hope my massage table comes soon into the new year, I have got a lot of things on will blog in the new year so happy times for me, Obi and you HAPPY NEW YEAR 2013 we made it by 2012.

As the day slowly come to a close, the sands of time slipping away from one old year to the next new year, I for one will be on the beach with Obi watching the fire works listening to the crowds cheer and be merry as a new morning begins.

Monday, 10 December 2012

Separate ways.

Due to the general atmosphere of the cottage, sometimes its ok but a lot of the times we just sit and stair at the telly only talking if one wants a cup of tea or something from the kitchen.
The rest of the time its spent in silence neither of us know what to say, when so much has been said already we moving apart, and must move on, over and over again. On the 21st of December, I will be moving down to be with my baby sister Nicola & John and there cat’s and dog, well it be cat’s and dog’s, just like the film.
The decision was not taken lightly, and maybe its just what we need, I don’t feel as if I can settle, the house no longer has my name upon the deed, the document says Nil Consideration, this has hit me so hard, I find my anger difficult to deal with, and usually end up turning it on myself, like I have done before.
Maybe this is the boost I need to finally kick the habit of smoking once and for all, I been planning on what to do in Brighton since I be there for the duration of January 2013.
There are two Argentinian Tango classes on, and I am thinking fuck it I go on both, also I might take the opportunity to go swimming at the king George swimming pool, the only thing I need to find out is if I can safely use my bus pass in Sussex?
I was a wee bit worried about the dance class, I sent an email to the teacher and she said no problemo come along and we will fix you out, Um Yay I think!
I might start going to the swimming at least a few times a week after Obi has had his first walk, One thing I do like about Brighton is there are so many places you can walk a dog, the beach the downs and there are so many parks to choose from.
Quite funny really my sister and her man John both lovely people, but they have it fixed in there head that the world will end on the 21st December all this 2012 stuff lol, so they have tried to get me to come a day early or a day late! Just give me a fucking key and I will let myself in FFS.
The world is not going to end on the 21st in fact the 22nd will be just another day but wait the cog’s are working….. Um ok the world is going to end can I have my Yule present now please?

Saturday, 8 December 2012

Walking to find you’re self.

It’s coming up 3 weeks since me and J split up, there been a bit of spite, annoyance, laugh’s and Obi, poor dog we both feel that he is in the middle of it all, there are times when our talks can get heated, and his tail drops, he walks of to the patio doors and curls up tight as if to shut it out.
I wonder if children feel like that when they hear there mum’s and dad’s argue, it must be heart breaking for them, I can see it in Obi his mood has changed since we are now sleeping apart, he has spent a lot of time in the front room keeping guard over both rooms.
Some times it’s so difficult to remind ourselves of the importance that no mater what is happening Oberon does not deserve one bit of it, difficult as it may seem he must be our top priority in this sorry situation.
I’m still finding it difficult to sleep, most nights I am up till 3am, my mind is so active and a lot of the time night paranoia, self loathing and anger towards myself wanting to punish myself for what to all intents and purposes is been my own doing… I no longer care for myself!
And I don’t even know why any more, just that my life is going in no particular direction, and J has had to deal with this attitude from day one, silently suffering watching as each day goes by and I am working to wards an early grave, and now she can no longer take it, my attitude to my own life has been more than she can bear and no longer wants to watch it… I don’t blame her.
I have noticed over the weeks, I have stopped shaving, my once trim beard is now growing thicker longer my top lip is almost covered in fine grey/white hair, my head of hair normally short is growing longer, its as if I now want to hide my face from the outside world, away from everyone’s gaze.
It’s now coming up 4 weeks since the split F has now been the one to stay away over night, I thought I push myself and go to the pub and take Obi with me, I only had £2.47 in my pocket and the post office closes at 12pm on a Saturday, she did not return till gone 12pm the next day Sunday.
Possibly in a week or two I will be staying with my little sister in Brighton for Yule and the New Year, F plan’s to just keep working so that some of the repairs can be done before the property goes on the market in the spring.
F has asked me to sigh away my part to the property… I have to trust her, even thought my trust in females in particular have always worked against me, but in my heart I do believe she would never hurt me or Obi, I will do this sign away any rights I have to the cottage, and hope my trust was not misplaced.
There is so many crimes you can commit on the one you love, adultery, domestic abuse and other vile things, with hand on heart I never did any of that, I do truly love F with all my heart, but I am so untrustworthy, about my own health, my smoking and failing health is what has created a barrier I can no longer fight, and yet I will keep trying, something has to work.
My crime was I took her for granted, I never thought it would come to this, always there always helpful always giving I did not realize she was always hurting and I was so wrapped up, I did not see it… I am so sorry!
I have totally given up now, I need to move on, the atmosphere of the home is getting me so down, I feel so cut off, I did not realise I was so glum till I got a call from a friend in Leeds.
It’s time to cut the ties and accept there will be no reconciliation between me and her, the longer I stay here the more I am feeling down, fuck knows what next week or the week after will bring, and besides I can no longer take sleeping on the air mattress it hurts too much.
Hopefully I will start blogging in the new year or even before if I can, take care of your self’s and remember every moment should be a joy not a burden.